As previously said, one of the main sources of confidence is preparation. However, another source is knowing about your past achievements.
Activity 1 (three things per day activity) required you to look at the strengths of your character. This activity is similar, but it requires you to look at your past achievements. I say that they’re similar as they both require internal reflection, which can be challenging.
When I usually mention this to somebody, they say that they have hardly any achievements. That is clearly incorrect. Unless you are under the age of about 10, you will have achieved something. The issue is that people only look at their academic merit or career success. Of course, achievements in those areas are fabulous! However, people forget about other achievements of theirs, such as being great at badminton, volunteering for a charity or persevering through illness! Yes, these are achievements.
So, what I would like you to do for this activity is to create a timeline that goes back as many years as you can remember you first achievement. So, if you are 25, and can remember your achievements as far back as 15, then that’s cool.
What I would like you to do is write down one achievement per day.
But how does this work?
Well, this trains your mind that you have achieved things in the past and any other endeavour that you make will just be another task or challenge for you to persevere through and achieve highly in! In order words, you’ve done it before, why can’t you do it again? Pretty simple eh!
What if I find this activity and activity 1 hard?
As I said earlier, this requires internal reflection. It can be quite hard to recognise your past achievements and positive characteristics, particularly if you’re quite harsh on yourself or do not give yourself much credit.
The best thing to do is start small. Also, one thing that I reccommend to people is writing an apology letter to yourself. It helps with this. Apologise for failing to recognise your positive characteristics and achievements. You may have to do one every evening for a few days.
Just remember, the literature suggests that it takes anywhere between 3 to 24 weeks to form a habit. Stick to these activities and your confidence will sky rocket!
Hope this helps and that everyones’ Friday goes well!